Have you ever heard of parents that teach their kids to save their first kiss for their wedding day? Once I turned 16 I was allowed to date and had an p. My mother taught me some specifics and always warned me about intimacy outside of marriage — it was simply out of the question.
When I told my friends, they were doubly shocked…especially since the guidelines were coming from a teenage guy. A quick peck might fall under the category of phileo love, depending on each person, but a long kiss marked with sensuality is certianly in the eros cateogory. The Bible makes it clear to avoid having sex before marriage 1 Corinthians , but as for kissing and other modes of affection, where do they measure up?
To answer this question we should look at temptations we or our partner may face. If either have a previous history with sexual temptation, we may want to avoid activities such as kissing that can prompt sexual thoughts or sexual feelings.
Many Christians would buy meat from temples known for sacrificing to pagan gods. Paul told the Christians not to serve the meat to those believers who thought eating that meat was sinful, to help them avoid temptation.
In the same way, Christians have differing views on alcohol. Some view it as fine in moderation Communion , etc. To help them avoid temptation, we would avoid serving them the beverage at social gatherings. In the same way, couples should establish temptations they may struggle with when talking about kissing and other acts of intimacy.
If someone struggles with sexual sin, they should avoid putting themselves in a compromised mindset. The same principle from above applies to this question, and other intimate acts that could lead one to thinking or acting on sexual temptations.
So is imagining kissing a sin? Is having a boyfriend a sin in Christianity? Is kissing a fiance before marriage a sin? When tackling all these questions, we have to apply the same tests from above.
The question comes up even more when you see people who wait until their wedding to have their first kiss. The Bible talks about being single, then engaged, and then married. The Bible does talk quite a bit about kissing, including at least one clear instance of kissing before marriage.
In fact, in that case Genesis , you have a guy Jacob kissing his future wife Rachel the first time they meet, sort of like a first date. But my question is: how do you flee from sex before marriage? And that means that kissing before marriage can be a sin, if it goes against 1 Corinthians But you would only kiss your sister in a certain way.
You definitely would not French kiss your sister, for instance. And where the Bible leaves things open, we have freedom. But there are some practical things to consider:. Make it a conscious decision. In other words, decide beforehand whether you are going to kiss while dating, and decide when that would be appropriate.
We want to show that it is something that can be celebrated. Josh McDowell, evangelist and author of best-selling Why True Love Waits , wrote of the problems teens face today and of damaging consequences of premarital sex. McDowell includes the feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, and the disillusionment with sex that can occur with when one has sex before marriage. According to radio show host Dr. The site noted the cultural image of abstinence, and emphasized why young people need to maintain their virginity before marriage.
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